How to turn a no into a yes dating dating the magisterium
I'm totally guilty of just fading out/not replying in lieu of saying no.Part of it is wanting to avoid confrontation, for sure, and feeling guilty about being mean, but I also feel like I suck at dating/meeting people and therefore give myself a hard time for wanting to shoot down an interested party, however politely.That I would never blame it on having a partner, because I should be allowed to just not like someone and not feel bad about it."Gillian, 23 "I don't like to condone lying, BUT I lie constantly when it comes to dating and/or getting out of dating. To be fair, I usually pull this crap with Tinder dates and I'm much nicer with actual prospects, set-ups, and people I've actually met IRL.I have a really nasty habit (working on it) of bailing on a date hours before it's supposed to happen, usually with the old, 'Oh shit, I'm sorry, my boss just told me I have to work late. But yes, I am rude and terrible, and I'm sure my karma is so stacked against me at this point that I will be single for life." Lauren, 28 "When a guy asks me on a date over text I pull the awkward, 'Suuuure, let's find a dayyyy,' and then am vague, noncommittal, and generally annoying until we can both agree that life is SO crazy right now and...*FADED* because I'm nonconfrontational and don't know how to be a real person.
If it's been more than that, though, I'll be honest and say I don't think it's the right thing for me."Kim, 26 "When someone asks me out and I don't want to go with them, it's not that hard to make my scheduling sound so impossible that I can't ever see them! And then when they still persist, like asking for coffee or something, I tell them I don't drink coffee and that's not even a lie!
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Although turning "no" into "yes" sounds more like a boardroom tactic, knowing how to do so is also helpful for real world problem-solving and can get what you want in the process.
I'm a huge bitch and that is why I am single."Monica, 28 "I am SPINELESS when it comes to turning down guys.
To the point where, when one guy asked me out on a second date that I was not interested in going on, I typed out a very nice 'You're great, but I don't think we're right for each other' text message to reply with and then proceeded to continually stare at it but not actually send the thing—until finally too much time passed and I had just ghosted on him by default.
The reason I give is true about 70 percent of the time; the only ones I lie to are the really nice ones where there was just no chemistry, because men never believe there was no chemistry if were attracted to you.